“孩子们小的时候，我都是活在当下。当时费尽了心力带他们：做功课、外宿、确保食物供应不断。带这个去乐队演唱会，带那个去田径运动会。忧心的事很多，但它们似乎一直都可控。如果其中一个孩子有问题，通常我都干预得了。我以为：‘只要他们高中毕业了，我的任务就算完成了，就能清闲清闲了。’但孩子们现在都成年了，我却比以前更操心了，因为他们的问题没停过，只是变成了成年人的问题。如今我也帮不上什么忙。我一个儿子得了抑郁症。我是在周日晚上通电话时开始注意到的——他的语调很平缓，回答也都很简短。然后我问对了问题，才确定他抑郁了。他说：‘我抑郁了，不知道为什么，也不知道怎么能治好。’有天晚上，他在电话里哭了——很安静地哭，这是最糟的，因为你束手无策。电话里很多寂静的时刻，还有：‘你还在吗？’我也说不出什么能让他高兴起来的话。母亲们在一辈子的赞美之后往往会失去信誉。所以现在我只担心它会不会好。我担心他以后会不会快乐。我催了他去找专家看看，但除了祈祷，别的我也做不了什么。我不确定祈祷有没有用，但我还是跪下来做了。”
“When the kids were young I was living in the moment. I was just trying to get them through the day: homework projects, sleepovers, keeping the food coming. Taking this one to a band concert. That one to a track meet. There were plenty of worries, but they always seemed manageable. I could usually intervene if one of the kids had a problem. And I thought: ‘Once they’re out of high school, I’m done. I’ll finally be able to relax.’ But all my children are adults now, and I’m worrying more than ever. Because their problems didn’t stop. They just became adult problems. And there’s not much I can do anymore. One of my sons has depression. I began to notice during our Sunday night phone calls-- his voice was flat, the answers were short. Then I asked the right questions and it all came out. He said: ‘I’m depressed. And I don’t know why. And I don’t know how to fix it.’ One night he just wept on the phone-- quiet weeping, which is the worst. Because there’s nothing to address. Just lots of dead space, and: ‘Are you still there?’ There wasn’t much I could say to cheer him up. Mothers tend to lose their credibility after a lifetime of praise. So I’m just left to worry if it will ever resolve. I worry if he’ll ever be happy. I urged him to see a professional, but there’s not much else I can do but pray. I’m not sure if prayer helps, but I get on my knees and do it anyway.”
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“When the kids were young I was living in the moment. I was just trying to get them through the day: homework projects, sleepovers, keeping the food coming. Taking this one to a band concert. That one to a track meet. There were plenty of worries, but they always seemed manageable. I could usually intervene if one of the kids had a problem. And I thought: ‘Once they’re out of high school, I’m done. I’ll finally be able to relax.’ But all my children are adults now, and I’m worrying more than ever. Because their problems didn’t stop. They just became adult problems. And there’s not much I can do anymore. One of my sons has depression. I began to notice during our Sunday night phone calls-- his voice was flat, the answers were short. Then I asked the right questions and it all came out. He said: ‘I’m depressed. And I don’t know why. And I don’t know how to fix it.’ One night he just wept on the phone-- quiet weeping, which is the worst. Because there’s nothing to address. Just lots of dead space, and: ‘Are you still there?’ There wasn’t much I could say to cheer him up. Mothers tend to lose their credibility after a lifetime of praise. So I’m just left to worry if it will ever resolve. I worry if he’ll ever be happy. I urged him to see a professional, but there’s not much else I can do but pray. I’m not sure if prayer helps, but I get on my knees and do it anyway.”
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（嘴巴寂寞的时候 也可以拿来当作小零食 嘻～
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叫我减肥吧 嘴巴不乐意 叫我健身吧 这个温度不允许
就想说在天热起来 把健身提上日程之前 先把这个体重控制控制吧[污]
代餐不好吃 之前是有所耳闻的
还好我做了做功课 第一次买到的就是好吃的诶[吃瓜]
☑️ffit8蛋白棒
网评牛肉味和豆乳味的最好吃 买了牛肉味的
一口咬下去可以明显吃到有牛肉松 坚果碎 饼干碎balala的
口感有点类似牛轧糖 雪花酥 但是是咸口的 微微咸～[羞嗒嗒]
✨热量蛮低的 一根大概也就120Kcal
饱腹感也还阔以 我的话晚上吃了睡前都不会饿 一次吃个一根两根就足够了
而且富含分离乳清蛋白 更容易被人体吸收 减肥也是要保证蛋白质补充的呀
不然基础代谢会变慢的！
✨比奶昔方便 打开就能吃 里面还是独立包装的 很好携带
像我这种早饭顾不上吃 晚上下班又晚的崽 属实是代餐利器
（嘴巴寂寞的时候 也可以拿来当作小零食 嘻～
马上就过年了 一顿接一顿的年夜饭当前
准备再囤一点 适当控制一下食量[污]
不能再胖了（忍住不笑.jpg
#焕新年货节##好物推选官# https://t.cn/A65VKV2T https://t.cn/RvIwIL6
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