成大事者必心细、气柔。有才而心细,定属大才;有智而气和,斯为大智。心细,即以明睿的智慧处事,三思而行,审时度势,先谋后动,利人利己,事半功倍。气柔,即以柔和的气质待人,以宽容之心处事。外柔内忍,养身益气,利己益人;好勇斗狠,暴躁易怒,伤己损人。心细气柔,大事必成。
He who achieves great things must be careful and gentle. Talented and careful, must be a great talent; There is wisdom and Qi and, Si is great wisdom. Careful, that is, to do things with wise wisdom, think twice, evaluate the situation, seek first and then act, benefit others and benefit themselves, get twice the result with half the effort. Qi is soft, that is, to treat people with a soft temperament and do things with a tolerant heart. External tolerance, health benefit Qi, self-interest benefit people; He's aggressive, he's angry, he hurts himself. If the heart is gentle, great things will happen.
He who achieves great things must be careful and gentle. Talented and careful, must be a great talent; There is wisdom and Qi and, Si is great wisdom. Careful, that is, to do things with wise wisdom, think twice, evaluate the situation, seek first and then act, benefit others and benefit themselves, get twice the result with half the effort. Qi is soft, that is, to treat people with a soft temperament and do things with a tolerant heart. External tolerance, health benefit Qi, self-interest benefit people; He's aggressive, he's angry, he hurts himself. If the heart is gentle, great things will happen.
#李子柒[超话]#
moon and son
文/在天空上涂鸦
空,没有白云sun 和乌云moon
掀桌子(ノꐦ ๑´Д`๑)ノ彡┻━┻
暴躁熊猫变猫,猫变鱼,鱼变狮子
狮子变猴子,猴子变龙变凤变大象
巨石强森吟诗一首,鲁智深杨柳岸晓风残月
苏东坡改行击剑,孟子罢业玩弹玻璃球
悔,悔,派大星引发章鱼哥大混乱
虐,虐,少爱了点,就虐,贪,贪
moon and son
文/在天空上涂鸦
空,没有白云sun 和乌云moon
掀桌子(ノꐦ ๑´Д`๑)ノ彡┻━┻
暴躁熊猫变猫,猫变鱼,鱼变狮子
狮子变猴子,猴子变龙变凤变大象
巨石强森吟诗一首,鲁智深杨柳岸晓风残月
苏东坡改行击剑,孟子罢业玩弹玻璃球
悔,悔,派大星引发章鱼哥大混乱
虐,虐,少爱了点,就虐,贪,贪
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