I don't think I know how to give up. But now I know that there is something which is out of your control. It is not you who don’t give up, it is that you can never seize it.我想我总是不知道要如何去学会放弃,现在我知道其实,有些是你根本就无法掌控,不是你不去放弃,而是你根本就抓不住.
「Charlie and the Chocolate Factory」
《苏东坡传》林语堂
读到苏东坡的祖父对儿子的潜能坚信不疑,大脑里就闪出了Charlie祖父的模样;读到小东坡跟妈妈说:“母亲,我长大之后若做范滂这样的人,您愿不愿意?” 母亲说:“你若能做范滂,难道我不能做范滂的母亲吗?” 大脑里就回响着chocolate factory里那女孩的母亲说:“But I can’t have a blueberry as a daughter. How is she supposed to compete?”
又想起李教授在《心理抚养》里提到‘观念’时说:
“观念不是理性的连续推理,而是瞬间的反应。其反应看似没有理由,但一定与他过去看到的、听到的东西有关。观念是由生活情景形成,不是由推理形成。一个人的观念来自哪儿?那一定是他从小耳闻目睹、见得最多的情景,听得最多的声音,是那些在他眼前摇来晃去、一遇事情就唠唠叨叨的抚养人。对绝大多数的家庭来讲,就是妈妈和爸爸,还有的是爷爷奶奶或姥姥姥爷。”
嗯,就这么串联起来了,苏东坡之所以成为苏东坡,Charlie之所以成为Charlie,都有迹可循的。
《苏东坡传》林语堂
读到苏东坡的祖父对儿子的潜能坚信不疑,大脑里就闪出了Charlie祖父的模样;读到小东坡跟妈妈说:“母亲,我长大之后若做范滂这样的人,您愿不愿意?” 母亲说:“你若能做范滂,难道我不能做范滂的母亲吗?” 大脑里就回响着chocolate factory里那女孩的母亲说:“But I can’t have a blueberry as a daughter. How is she supposed to compete?”
又想起李教授在《心理抚养》里提到‘观念’时说:
“观念不是理性的连续推理,而是瞬间的反应。其反应看似没有理由,但一定与他过去看到的、听到的东西有关。观念是由生活情景形成,不是由推理形成。一个人的观念来自哪儿?那一定是他从小耳闻目睹、见得最多的情景,听得最多的声音,是那些在他眼前摇来晃去、一遇事情就唠唠叨叨的抚养人。对绝大多数的家庭来讲,就是妈妈和爸爸,还有的是爷爷奶奶或姥姥姥爷。”
嗯,就这么串联起来了,苏东坡之所以成为苏东坡,Charlie之所以成为Charlie,都有迹可循的。
#意义的构造# 句子的双重结构
我们说背单词要看例句,但问题是例句的数量也很多。一方面,我们不要把例句看成一个整体,囫囵吞枣地理解。另一方面,我们又不要把例句直接看成单词组合,认为句子拆开就是一个一个的单词。
句子内部的结构是很复杂的,所以拆解也是一层一层地进行。
最基本的拆解,是把句子看成双重结构,比如看到下面这样几个例句:
You did it.
You can do it.
Why don't you do it?
虽然这几个句子不太一样,但我们都可以看出来它们的共同点:
You - do - it
我们把这个关系,看作核心的意义构造。在拆解出了这样的核心意义构造之后,我们可以灵活运用:
You did it.
You didn't do it
You can do it.
You should do it.
Did you do it?
How do you do it?
How did you do it?
Why don't you do it?
Why did you do it?
Why can't you do it?
… …
再看这个: You - say - it
You said it.
You didn’t say it
You can say it.
You should say it.
Did you say it?
How do you say it?
How did you say it?
Why don't you say it?
Why did you say it?
Why can't you say it?
… …
不论是“拆解”和“装配”,都不是一下子直接把句子拆散成单个的单词,而是有层次的。我们得按层次循序渐进,每进入一个层次,我们灵活运用的能力都会有大幅度提高。你如果不管层次,简单粗暴地拆解,就会碰到很大的困难。
我们说背单词要看例句,但问题是例句的数量也很多。一方面,我们不要把例句看成一个整体,囫囵吞枣地理解。另一方面,我们又不要把例句直接看成单词组合,认为句子拆开就是一个一个的单词。
句子内部的结构是很复杂的,所以拆解也是一层一层地进行。
最基本的拆解,是把句子看成双重结构,比如看到下面这样几个例句:
You did it.
You can do it.
Why don't you do it?
虽然这几个句子不太一样,但我们都可以看出来它们的共同点:
You - do - it
我们把这个关系,看作核心的意义构造。在拆解出了这样的核心意义构造之后,我们可以灵活运用:
You did it.
You didn't do it
You can do it.
You should do it.
Did you do it?
How do you do it?
How did you do it?
Why don't you do it?
Why did you do it?
Why can't you do it?
… …
再看这个: You - say - it
You said it.
You didn’t say it
You can say it.
You should say it.
Did you say it?
How do you say it?
How did you say it?
Why don't you say it?
Why did you say it?
Why can't you say it?
… …
不论是“拆解”和“装配”,都不是一下子直接把句子拆散成单个的单词,而是有层次的。我们得按层次循序渐进,每进入一个层次,我们灵活运用的能力都会有大幅度提高。你如果不管层次,简单粗暴地拆解,就会碰到很大的困难。
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