Just let things be, Let people go. Seemingly, everything happens in a designed way in which we are meant to go ahead and accept the reality. The God is unfair but fair, we shall cherish the people around and happiness we own, and embrace the cruel society with energy and bravery. You are not bad.

A Red Red Rose
O my luve is like a red,red rose,
That's newly sprung in June.
O my luve is like the melodie，
That's sweetly played in tune.
As fair thou art,my bonie lass,
So deep in luve am I;
And I will luve thee still,my dear,
Till a' the seas gang dry.
Till a' the sea gang dry,my dear,
And the rock melt wi' the sun;
And I will luve thee still,my dear,
While the sands o' life shall run.
And fare thee weel,my only luve
And fare thee weel a while;
And I will come again,my luve,
Tho's it were ten thousand mile!

交流的重点：

1.准确表达自己的目的——“DEAR MAN”

Describe描述：知道自己的需求并且清晰表述。如“我想要一件某牌子的衣服”而不是“我想要一件好看的衣服”。

Express表达：主动表达你的想法，并且不害怕真实表达的后果（比如别人会不高兴等）。

Assert坚定：说话有重点要清晰。

Reinforce巩固：给对方正面反馈比如如实说：“这就是我想要的！“

Mindful警觉：牢记沟通目的，防止被带偏。

Appear展示：通过身体语言显露自信。

Negotiate谈判：适当让步和接受谈判。

2. 保持友好的关系——“GIVE”

Gentle温和：保持温和，避免攻击性的强势态度。

Interested有兴趣：不中断对方的谈话并且认真听。

Validate认可：认可别人的想法，尊重他人的意见。

3. 维护自尊——“FAST”

Fair公平：保持公平公正的态度。

Apologies道歉：双方有争执时不随便道歉。

Stick to Values坚持观点：知道自己的价值观，不盲目迎合对方。

Truthful诚实：如是表达避免夸张和贬低自己。